The first step in breaking a bad habit is understanding that you have a habit that doesn’t serve you. Otherwise, you’re in denial, which can’t change anything. So it’s either someone holds up a mirror or puts a gun to your head and says, this is a problem. It could be a judge, your partner, your kids, or someone else in your life.
And if you say no, it’s not a problem, you’re not going to change that habit. So really think about it, and then make a commitment to start the process of making a change. If there’s something inside you that needs to be healed in order to get rid of that habit, have the courage to deal with it. Get some support. This support could be a sponsor, a close friend, or a therapist.
Try it on and see how it feels. Get some feedback from people. And if it’s a good change, and it sticks, and it works great, be willing to test drive new ways of being you. Because if your pendulum only swings to one side, you’ve always just done it that way. You may have to swing to the other side to experience something radically different. But eventually you’re going to find just the right balance point of what works for you.